The key or tone in which we need to educate right now, I think two points mark it: one is the strength.
The children must be strong but the influence of the environment is also very strong, so it is important adaptability. I think the image of junco explains well, the kids do not break but “can” bend, change positions.
This is logical but not easy, usually, parents to note the changes and unexpected situations they face react in two ways:
1- With rigidity: It is the parent who cannot tolerate the situation and covers their children from negative full of authoritarianism, wearing the relationship with them so that you do not lose for lack of limits is lost for lack of communication.
2- Innocently do not understand what happens to their children: They do not know what to do and do not face the situation. They are those who see the obvious “putting hands in the fire” and end up burning. Things are changing a lot and a dizzying pace. We cannot educate with the same scheme five years ago.
We speak of strength and resilience. What is the strong person? It is the one’s convictions and does not bend, it adapts. They are qualities of people with the strong will but also with a clear mind. The difference between weakness and adaptability is the weak does not think falter, transfer, is not able to act for their own reasons.
Adjusting, the reasons, ponders reasons they reflect. Clearly, intelligence and will always leave together. You cannot want good stable and the strong way if there is no chance to reflect on it.
Will is the engine, is the cause of the act, and is the main force that integrates the character of a person. The educational work tends to help achieve internal consistency, deep convictions and the strength to act. In addition, in this intellectual factor involved as important part: if we say that will want what intelligence shows him as true, we conclude that the man was chosen in proportion to those who know. Therefore, we cannot educate without constantly putting “reason” to act.
There is a gap between ordering because there is no choice but to order because of necessity. Education is the will to make and who can appeal to their reason wants to be orderly, responsible, etc., and to understand that for him it is good.
However, another problem that we often find is the barrier of “disability”; in the case of the child who “wants” but “cannot”.
Parents should understand that it is a matter of the child develops in childhood, which transforms under when he freely assume what your intelligence. Hence, the importance of creating in our family as stables an environment as possible to counter the lack of stability. The atmosphere of a child is not just their family and school, is the TV, the club, friends, games, computer. Before there were habits acquired in early childhood because the stimuli were stable by themselves, family roles, schedules, entertainment, weather, etc. Perhaps there was no underlying motivation but “the climate” facilitated the formation of “ordered brains.”